Tuesday 12 February 2013

The property department.

I'm sitting on the window ledge in our dining room as the house is rapidly being dismantled by the removers. Three huge lorries are blocking the road and are being fed all our furniture as it is emptied from the house. The dogs are taking it all in their stride - after all, this is the third time in three years for two of them. It is also showing us how like her dad, young Tess is. She is unphased by the upheaval. I feel surprisingly calm and detached from it all - I think I have blocked any emotion intentionally. This move was always going to happen - this is the end of the curacy, this is the goal post!
Not only is The Curate taking up his first incumbency but I will have the time to explore new opportunities. I am no longer working as a teacher, I have no links to the area we are going to and   (whatever I might be feeling right now) - I am not too old for a new adventure!

We are moving to a rectory which has builders working in it. In fact it has been quite a battle to get the place anywhere near the state of our other two 'church' houses. This has added immense stress to the whole process - so much so that I declared I was going to live in our own house in South Devon
( but I am here ). The third time of moving in with builders is just not funny. Does everyone have a struggle with property departments? We had such a lovely leaflet from them telling us about the department and with a picture of a lovely new vicarage with solar panels on the roof so I thought we were going to a diocese that was forward looking - and, probably, they are - we have just timed our move badly. Silly discussions about en suite bathrooms that don't exist but would possibly be added - if they are available to be used by all the other bedrooms (therefore not ensuite) . But then we find that these ensuites do not include a WC. I don't even like 'ensuites' - I'd just like a bathroom that is updated from the original one and has enough room to 'swing a cat in' ! ( That saying might confuse some of my foreign readers!) Silly, silly niggles that have caused avoidable stress if only people would realise that this is to be a home and actually pick up the phone and talk to us.


our last frosty view of the moor
The fantastic parishioners have taken it upon themselves to decorate the house and have spent many hours cleaning ( and recleaning after the builders) in order to help us move in. Knowing this has made a huge difference to The Curate ( Rector 2B) and myself. I don't think we would be moving today if it wasn't for them. When we heard that builders were still living in our kitchen, bedroom and bathroom, we booked at cottage near the new house for a few days so that we can take stock of the work and keep three very excitable dogs from helping us unpack.

Today and tomorrow I will remember that I must 'keep calm and carry on' ( and I will also remind The Rector 2B that he must do this too.)

5 comments:

  1. Ouch, I feel for you, Harriet. When I was appointed to my first parishes, the vicarage needed so much work (after a fifteen-year incumbency with a vicar who wouldn't let the property department do any work inside the house!) that we stayed on in our own home (luckily in a neighbouring parish) for 3 months until the work was finished. To be honest DH and weren't very impressed with the Diocesan Surveyor who needed a lot of chasing to make decisions, but thankfully the basic work was well carried out, though we still had to manage with a rather antiquated kitchen and bathroom.

    All the best with the settling-in period. When will The Rector take up his duties?

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  2. 3 months! I hope we shall have the house to ourselves before then. These are the things you don't get to hear about until they are happening to you too. We are suppose to have a full house of family and friends on March 7 th - which is when The Rector2B is installed. I hope they like sleeping in boxes!

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    1. Don't panic! The circumstances were very different. I was licensed as Priest-in-Charge for the first year (always done for first incumbencies in our diocese). Being in the midst of the foot-and-mouth epidemic in 2001 there could be no big service, so I was licensed in a very small service (Bishop, Archdeacon and churchwardens only) in my smallest church and started work within a month of first being appointed. The big service and houseful of guests happened the following year when I was officially inducted as Vicar

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  3. What can I say?...except I'm praying for you both in this moving and settling in time. I hope you find times of quiet in this busy period. The few days in the cottage sounds like a great idea and I'm sure you will enjoy family and friends being with you for The Rector2B's parish welcoming service. Thanks for taking the time to comment on my blog. Every blessing.

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    1. Hello Linda - the cottage has been a great help - tiredness causes everything to seem so much worse. We are glad to be able to escape the mess and sit down without thinking we ought to be unpacking another box.

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